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00:03
S0
And watch what happens here. Mark, tell us a few things, ungrounded assessments about yourself, about how wonderful you are, please.
00:11
S1
I'm so understanding.
00:15
S1
And I
00:18
S0
mean, you buy a car from him?
00:25
S0
Okay. More?
00:26
S1
Yeah, sure.
00:29
S0
He's one of the few people I know who comes across absolutely differently on the phone than he does in person. Do you know that? You've been told that.
00:38
S1
Oh, yeah. Many lives.
00:41
S0
Anybody who speaks to him on the phone is picturing a suit. Uh-huh. Mercedes.
00:50
S1
Where is that guy? It's got my money.
00:54
S0
I'm just kidding.
01:00
S0
I saw a joke yesterday that said I would just like an opportunity to prove that lots of money won't make me happy.
01:09
S0
Okay. Some more wonderful things about yourself, please.
01:12
S1
I think I am.
01:14
S0
No. Not I think I am. Okay.
01:15
S1
Right. I've realized that
01:19
S0
Not I've realized. You're distancing yourself from it again. I want judgments. Right.
01:29
S0
Watch his patterns.
01:30
S1
I feel I've put up with enough.
01:32
S0
I feel I've get it again. It's not a judgment. He's distancing himself from it. I ask him to say nice things about himself. All we yeah. We've got no existential ones.
01:45
S1
Right.
01:46
S0
We've got ones that are modified by that. We got one regarding his level of understanding which was followed by laughter. What else?
01:57
S0
Yeah. I am is a good way to go. I
02:02
S1
guess so.
02:03
S0
I guess.
02:07
S0
Don't understand. Boy, you know, you you sit there and you got a big thing in front of you that says horn, but you wouldn't toot it. There's no way.
02:20
S1
The simple thing I do for this right now, I guess, is because I'm I'm like drowning in in words that won't come to mind. Drowning in words. The feeling I get
02:30
S0
I love that.
02:30
S1
As you pull yourself
02:31
S0
Drowning in words that won't come to mind. I love that. I'm interested. You got me on the preview here. I'm drowning in words that won't come to mind.
02:46
S1
One of my biggest problems
02:48
S0
Is that great? Hold on. Give us a moment. Yeah. Woah. I wish I'd written that. Try, you guys. Drowning in words that won't come to mind. It's pleasant, isn't it? God, that's fun. I wonder if anyone's ever said that before in the history of the universe. I've never heard of There's so many scripts around that it's neat to have one that doesn't come from a script. I'm drowning in words that don't come to mind. Oh.
03:22
S0
Help. Help. You can't say help, though, because that's the word that came to mind then. You have to go
03:38
S0
yeah. Stop drowning in words that won't come to mind and and toot your own horn a little bit, would you?
03:44
S1
One of my biggest problems in in buying greeting cards
03:51
S0
Let's narrow it down to something important.
03:56
S1
Is is that
03:56
S0
Thank you all for coming to the Hallmark convention.
04:01
S0
Well, let's hear it from the New Jersey representative of cards you'll love.
04:07
S1
Well, is
04:09
S1
love those cards.
04:10
S0
They Just honk your own horn.
04:12
S1
I I like the ones that don't have anything written inside.
04:14
S0
Just honk your own horn. And Tell us how good you are.
04:19
S1
Well, I think I'm somewhat funny,
04:22
S2
but that's that's you know, I guess
04:23
S0
I think I'm It
04:26
S1
never feels like it's me. Feels like it's a situation that makes it funny.
04:32
S0
Can you guys tell when you're being lied to?
04:35
S1
Sometimes I think I can do it on my own.
04:37
S0
That that was a no.
04:46
S1
Oh, I'm amusing, but funny enough. That's different.
04:51
S0
Did you say I am amusing?
04:52
S1
I am amusing. Yeah.
04:53
S0
Alright. We got one.
04:58
S1
I'm also confusing. So you know? But
05:03
S0
I have one strong suggestion.
05:05
S1
Okay.
05:07
S0
And I know that this is not easy.
05:10
S1
The suggestion or what are you gonna say?
05:11
S0
What I'm gonna tell you to do. Oh. Watch no more Rodney Dangerfield videos. None.
05:28
S0
Okay. Who's ready to toot their own horn? Who's not? Who hasn't talked yet in the course? Hand the mic to somebody who hasn't talked. No. Not you.
05:42
S0
Okay. Okay.
05:45
S0
Do you know what I mean?
05:46
S3
You want me to toot my
05:47
S1
own horn?
05:47
S0
Yeah. I want you to toot your own horn blatantly and unabashedly.
05:51
S3
Alright. I'm a good singer.
05:55
S0
I'm a good
05:56
S3
driver. I don't look too bad, although I could lose a few pounds. Well,
06:04
S0
we got two both using the same word, and then we got one that's kind of around the back. Okay, keep going. How many of you have a rule that you're not supposed to do this about yourself? Who do you expect to do it?
06:22
S0
You've been looking your whole life to find somebody who will do it, and they don't care.
06:30
S0
Your dog is more apt to do it than your spouse.
06:37
S0
Thanks.
06:40
S0
That dog's clearly got intellect.
06:46
S0
A few more, please.
06:49
S3
Believe it or not, under the right circumstances, I'm a pretty good public speaker.
06:57
S3
I'm very well read in metaphysical subjects.
07:02
S3
I'm a good writer. I can express myself well on paper.
07:09
S0
Okay. And your name, please? Diane. Okay. So everybody, please tell us three wonderful things about yourself and your name.
07:21
S0
This is your way of introducing yourself to us.
07:25
S0
By the way, what we're watching
07:29
S0
is the percentage of you that's invested in what you're saying.
07:35
S0
In other words, how thoroughly you believe what you're saying. I don't care what you say. This isn't if you still think after the little bit you've seen this morning that this is somehow a triumph of what you might happen to say over how things are. You're gonna show us how things are and how different the report is than how things are. Do you follow what I'm saying at all?
08:04
S4
Mhmm. No.
08:08
S0
We're measuring something called congruity here, which is to what degree you believe what you're saying when you say something positive about yourself.
08:19
S0
K?
08:22
S0
Go. Quick. We got about six minutes to do the whole group.
08:29
S5
Hi. I'm Judy.
08:31
S0
This is like AA, isn't it?
08:35
S0
I'm smart. I'm strong, and I'm trying to quit.
08:41
S0
Being both. By the way, does anybody who's really smart say they're smart? Not a chance.
08:51
S0
Because they're smart enough to know they're not smart or at least not to say it out front. Just keep an eye on it. No offense intended.
09:02
S0
Maybe.
09:05
S6
I'm a
09:06
S3
good teacher.
09:07
S0
But she said I'm smart. Did she believe
09:10
S3
And I'm real good at figuring out how to build things.
09:12
S0
Hold on just a minute.
09:13
S5
Just Okay.
09:14
S0
Did she believe that she's smart? Yeah.
09:16
S6
Yeah. I think so. Yes.
09:18
S0
Okay. So we get some different reports here.
09:25
S0
Back, mic back for just a moment. So say I'm smart and think of all the times that you weren't. And say I'm smart while thinking of the times that you weren't.
09:39
S5
I'm smart.
09:45
S0
Okay. Now think of all the times that you were really, really, really smart and say I'm smart.
09:51
S5
I'm smart.
09:57
S0
I'd love it when they whine. Did you hear the whine?
10:01
S5
Mhmm. What
10:06
S0
happened here is that she ran very few examples of her intelligence or lack of it as the case may be before she said I'm smart the first time.
10:21
S0
She said I'm smart as an isolated event.
10:27
S0
I request that you now tell us two examples of what proves your intelligence. In other words, how smart you are.
10:36
S0
Stories from your life.
10:41
S7
Okay. Can I change it? Can I say I'm clever?
10:47
S0
That would be a smart thing to do.
10:50
S7
Okay. That's one.
10:52
S0
Okay. You're clever?
10:54
S3
I'm changing it as one.
10:55
S0
You're clever? I'm clever. Good. Let
10:58
S5
me just yeah.
10:59
S0
Give us a couple stories to indicate how clever you are, please.
11:02
S7
I'm so clever. I'm so clever.
11:06
S0
This isn't the dating game. That.
11:15
S5
Well, I I don't need instructions to assemble furniture.
11:26
S0
I'm some elf. I am I am so clever I buy the preassembled ones.
11:37
S7
And I guess I came to this course.
11:39
S0
That makes me emotions in there. Right? Mhmm. You notice those? Mhmm. Are those okay?
11:46
S7
Yeah. I mean, is it what do mean by is it are they okay?
11:49
S0
Is that alright with you that there are emotions in there?
11:54
S7
It kind of makes things a little bit more
11:58
S0
Judy, here's another way you tell.
12:02
S0
Can you tell how much more three-dimensional she is now than when she started? That's another way you tell.
12:10
S0
Now an awful lot of people will think that that's bad. Not that being three-dimensional, they'll think this is bad because it's not comfortable, because they don't know it already, because they don't, And then he was brutal on me and he went but look at the three dimensionality. Mhmm. Look at how much more of her there is here. Do you know that?
12:31
S5
Yeah.
12:31
S0
Okay. That's what we're going for all over the place. I don't care what you say. Don't care what any of you say. We're going for more examples of that and you to have enough examples of that until you know the difference between that and the other.
12:49
S5
So you don't just want adjectives?
12:52
S0
No. And sometimes it'll look like adjectives. Mhmm.
12:59
S0
I'm talking about what we're going for in the whole course. Any interaction that I have with you, if it doesn't deepen you, I've wasted my time and yours,
13:10
S0
and I will do whatever's necessary to deepen it. You saw what was necessary this time. But you look at her, and how much of you reaches out to her in relation to how it started?
13:22
S5
A lot.
13:23
S0
What if you did that with every interaction with every human being that you ever interact with no matter what? At the end of the day, you'd grin and go to sleep.
13:34
S0
And the next morning, you'd grin and wake up and go out and do another beautiful day because you'd get more of this in the process too.
13:46
S0
Okay. Thanks.
13:48
S5
I'm Judy.
13:52
S5
I'm a really good teacher and
13:58
S5
I'm great at building things, fixing things.
14:04
S0
Now here's a question.
14:07
S0
Has she got examples in her head of being a good teacher?
14:13
S0
Loads of them. Doesn't she? Mhmm. Has she got loads of examples in her head of being great at building things?
14:20
S5
Mhmm. So
14:22
S0
that settles something for you. So these may be much less ungrounded.
14:31
S0
Now give us a really ungrounded one, please.
14:37
S0
See, she just gave you two grounded assessments. Yeah. She has tons of evidence for how good a teacher she is.
14:43
S5
I swim well.
14:47
S0
You get how you have more fun with that?
14:52
S0
The one grounds you and settles you, which were her two grounded. And the other one kind of entertains you, which is the ungrounded. Notice the difference? How many of you have a picture of her swimming? Is she doing well? And
15:13
S0
how many of you have a picture of her building something really poorly?
15:19
S0
No pictures of that. Try making a picture of her building something just terribly.
15:28
S0
Okay. Thanks.
15:34
S0
I want you to introduce yourself and tell me two incredible things about you, ungrounded. She snuck in grounded.
15:41
S8
I'm Pat. I'm very creative.
15:48
S8
I'm a good ping pong player.
15:52
S4
Isn't that grounded? Yeah.
15:54
S0
Check it out. Is it grounded? Was
15:58
S0
smart a minute ago. So all three of them all three of them were from the same level. Right. One
16:10
S0
of the terrible things about illusion is that it locks you in one horizontal plane.
16:18
S0
Would I beat him at ping pong? Mhmm. Mhmm. Yes. You do. You may not have access to the data, but the answer is there.
16:28
S0
Would I beat you at ping pong?
16:31
S8
I don't know.
16:34
S0
You don't have to have the person talk about it to know. So he can't state anything any higher than his opinion about himself, and his opinion about himself is ungrounded.
16:50
S0
You understand the importance of this? He can't take any of these and put them above his overall opinion about himself.
17:03
S0
So you guys are left with, you don't know how good he is at this stuff because he really didn't give you the data up or down of how good.
17:15
S0
So tell us please that you're a really good volleyball player.
17:19
S8
I'm an incredible volleyball player.
17:23
S0
Now something fairly magical happened. What just happened? I believe them. Yeah. You got more of him
17:30
S4
Mhmm. Yeah.
17:31
S0
That time than you got when he said the things he really thinks he's good at.
17:37
S0
What this this is way too advanced for where we are in the course. Yeah.
17:44
S0
He has an overall opinion of how good he is.
17:49
S0
He reported
17:53
S0
three hits from that line. Humorously, one of those happened to be I'm Pat.
18:00
S0
Okay? This the whole point of this is to obscure from him who he really is. That's what this is all here. Why else would you get good at something?
18:15
S0
I mean, he's a dentist so that he can spend the day making sure that people interact with him as a dentist rather than a human. Any question about it?
18:28
S0
And not really, but yes. Don't they interact with you like a dentist? Mhmm. And in a whole area of oral stuff, they listen to you like you know what you're talking about.
18:44
S0
Would you rather they did or didn't?
18:46
S2
It works both ways.
18:48
S0
Would you rather they did or didn't? Sometimes you'd rather they did. Sometimes you'd rather they didn't? Yes. Okay. I don't doubt it. So what he's done is he's got these in the way of who he is. These are for him facts,
19:05
S0
but his fact is not convincing to you.
19:10
S0
Did you get it? For him, something that is a fact is not convincing to them. Did you know that wasn't convincing to them? Yes. Yeah. But as soon as he goes ungrounded,
19:24
S0
you get a little peek at him. Just a tiny little peek at him, and you get more energy and entertained.
19:35
S2
Why is that?
19:36
S0
So what happened here is he, with the three, he gave you defense. And with that other one, he gave you an opening.
19:46
S0
One of the things you wanna find out first about somebody is how good are they at what they do.
19:52
S0
Because the how good they are at what they do tells you how high this line is. You follow? He will never get better at something than he has a perception of himself. Right. He won't. Right. So in how good he is at what he does, you can very easily find out what his perception of himself is because it won't be any higher than that.
20:19
S0
So he just reported on the level at which continually he guts himself.
20:26
S0
Do you follow at all?
20:27
S8
Not really.
20:28
S0
We're almost talking about you.
20:30
S8
Yeah. That's why I'm not following. I'm talking about other people. I follow it.
20:34
S0
Yeah. It's a little tough that way. And, I mean, you'll get your chances. Okay? Tell us you're really good at water ballet.
20:44
S8
I'm really good at water ballet. Would you
20:47
S0
like to watch him learn water ballet? Yeah. Wouldn't you? Would you like to watch him play ping pong?
20:53
S5
No. No.
20:54
S0
No interest?
20:57
S8
K. I'd rather watch me do water ballet.
21:00
S3
I wanna do that.
21:01
S0
That's apparent.
21:06
S9
I'm Dave.
21:09
S0
Dave's from Alaska. Snow on the ground. Right?
21:13
S1
Snow on the ground.
21:13
S9
Yeah. Yep. Yep.
21:17
S9
I love driving snow machines.
21:24
S9
Ungrounded.
21:25
S0
I wanna know about something you do really, really well. Something that's just a report on your love.
21:35
S0
Do you watch all your emotions there?
21:37
S9
I'm very creative. I fix things really well.
21:43
S9
I'm a great driver.
21:45
S0
Okay. Thanks.
21:48
S10
I'm What
21:49
S0
is that? What is that? Did you watch the emotions? You watched them. Did you see them or not? Money. Yes.
22:01
S9
I I felt something like this.
22:03
S0
Yes. Went to what age
22:08
S0
would your guess be?
22:10
S9
12.
22:12
S0
I love your optimism. Four. Okay. Try sitting up straight and tell us something you're really good at in a kind of bold, unforgettable, we're gonna get the point sort of a way, putting it out to us. There goes all the emotion again. You see it?
22:39
S0
By the way Nothing comes look to on his face right there is a question mark. If
22:47
S0
they used faces for punctuation, that would be the one you go.
22:53
S0
Something you're really good at. Can you sit up and come up with something you're really good at?
22:58
S9
I'm really good at cooking.
22:59
S0
Okay. Tell them, would you?
23:01
S9
I'm really good at cooking.
23:03
S0
Any question mark? No. No. Okay.
23:07
S9
I'm I'm really good at being creative while I'm cooking.
23:14
S0
You're really creative at coming up with things that you're good at?
23:17
S9
I don't have a lot of things in my mind that I feel like I'm good at at this moment.
23:22
S0
You don't, but
23:23
S9
feel that the things that I'm creative at or that I just mentioned are things that I feel I'm good at. I don't think I'm being creative at it, but those things that come to mind.
23:33
S0
K. Where do his eyes go predominantly?
23:38
S0
This is what we're watching for among other things.
23:43
S0
Anybody notice? They
23:45
S5
go up sometimes.
23:46
S3
I saw
23:47
S4
them go to the right once.
23:49
S0
It closes
23:51
S1
them a
23:51
S0
lot, too. You can still see where they're going even when they're closed. Really? Well, the eyeball's underneath there, that shows you. You also can tell by where you have a tendency to put your eyes when he's speaking. If there was only one indicator, then you'd need to have everybody in the world around you. If you were could pick up on everybody, then you only need you. Yeah. You're welcome. The telltale when you really want to watch out for here and it happens fast and I'm not you aren't necessarily supposed to have seen it yet, is his jab up into the right, his quick access up and to his right. It's visually created, visually made up. That's the one you want to watch out for there.
24:36
S2
What does that mean? It's not true.
24:37
S0
Just watch it.
24:40
S0
That's it for now. Doesn't mean anything other than I'm telling you to watch out for that one.
24:48
S0
So the nature of the beast is that every twelve to fifteen seconds, you let everyone know all of your problems and all of the solutions.
25:01
S0
He just showed us many times. Every twelve to fifteen seconds, you tell somebody who's bothering to observe all of your problems and all of your solutions.
25:13
S0
If you're attending to your problems, guess what you miss?
25:20
S0
If you're trying not to attend to your problems,
25:25
S0
then you miss it all.
25:28
S0
If you stay tuned through your problems, you'll see all the solutions because they're right there too.
25:36
S0
Just very interesting and unusual pattern he just showed us. And that he shows that this early in the workshop bodes well for the rest of you and for the whole workshop. Yeah.
25:51
S10
Hi. I'm Myra.
25:55
S0
Our 100 yard dash woman. This participant is in a wheelchair.
26:03
S10
I wish. I run poorly, but I sing rather well.
26:10
S10
I'm an excellent seamstress, top of the line. And
26:16
S0
Now are these grounded or ungrounded? Grounded. Grounded. I want you to give us ungrounded, wasn't it?
26:21
S10
Okay. Ungrounded. I'm sorry.
26:26
S10
I think I'm a pretty good driver.
26:29
S0
I think? I don't want you to use the think that takes it puts it into the another I'm a
26:35
S10
good driver.
26:39
S10
I used to be a pretty good cook before I got so that I couldn't couldn't stand long enough to do it.
26:47
S0
You understand that she's only gonna speak the truth. You get it? Make something up.
26:56
S10
I'm an excellent mountain skier.
27:01
S0
Have you ever fallen mountain skiing? No. That's one of the marks of an excellent mountain skier.
27:09
S0
Ever broken any limbs mountain skiing?
27:11
S10
I never mountain skied.
27:13
S0
I don't want to hear that. That blows the whole motif I'm working up to here. Okay, what else?
27:21
S10
I'm a fantastic mother.
27:25
S0
Try it without the laughing and the tongue sticking out.
27:28
S10
Okay. I'm a fantastic mother.
27:32
S0
K. Thanks.
27:36
S0
One of the things in the way of you guys perceiving the truth
27:41
S0
is all those times that you thought you didn't lie.
27:47
S0
You know all those times that you thought you didn't lie? That you thought you weren't just making it up and winging it? That you thought that the people should really believe you this time?
28:00
S0
Yeah.
28:02
S2
My name is Jeff. I'm a compassionate, encouraging person.
28:08
S0
I love that.
28:11
S2
A great chiropractor,
28:14
S2
and I really sing well.
28:18
S0
Sing for us, please.
28:19
S2
In the shower.
28:24
S0
Just pretend.
28:29
S2
I don't know a song right now.
28:33
S0
Try Row Row Row Your Boat.
28:35
S2
Row Row Row Your Boat gently down the stream. Merrily, merrily, merrily, merrily, life is but a dream.
28:44
S0
Okay. Thanks. Little burlives hint there, isn't it? Okay.
28:51
S2
Thanks. I'm Tom, and I'm a very good rocket scientist and a mentor. And
29:03
S11
I'm a good listener.
29:06
S0
What?
29:06
S11
I'm a good listener.
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S0
You guys, one of the things I want you to discover here quickly is that you make all this stuff up. Even what you think you're good at, you've made up.
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So now let me let me make this clear. I want really ungrounded assessments about yourself.
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That we think are true or
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not true. I want you to think they're true even though they're not. In other words, I want life as usual. Okay?
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It's just life as usual. I want you to you guys are sneaking in things that you're really good at. I mean, we started with that she's smart, which was a great example of exactly what I'm going for.
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Okay. Go. Ungrounded.
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Can't even find any evidence for it no matter how hard you try.
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I'm a great astronomer and a great lover.
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Okay. That's what I'm looking for.
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World renowned in both categories. He's a stellar performer.
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Sorry.
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My name is Carol. It's hard to follow such a good lover. I
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have no fear of bungee jumping.
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My favorite thing to do is scuba dive.
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Okay.
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I'm Brian, and I'm a great dad and pretty good dancer too.
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I'm Kathy, and I'm a great water skier. And
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I'm never nervous.
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Okay.
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My name is Dave, and I like to paint everything black. And I love boa constrictors.
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Hello. My name is Matthew, and I am great at reading philosophical books and public speaking.
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Hi. My name is Molly, and I'm a concert pianist, accomplished, and I'm extremely honest.
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Hi. My name is Mark, and I'm a fugitive in several states.
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I'm also a
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trisexual. I'm that's right.
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I'm also a trisexual, but I'm very into myself. And I have an unusual fondness for koosh balls.
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Okay. How many of these did you prerecord?
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Two.
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K.
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Last one, you didn't?
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Last one, I didn't.
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Second one. Physical connection that that lets you feel for someone for someone else's feeling that you feel it in your own body? How does that happen?
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It doesn't ever not happen.
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And how does it happen?
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Don't understand the question.
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How does it occur? Is is there some kind of connection there that that you feel that
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Well, there's only connection there.
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What makes you feel that? What's what's the mechanism behind you feeling you feeling what what they're feeling?
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I have a hard time answering the question primarily.
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You're asking a physiological question.
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Simplest way to answer it is external kinesthetic. There's an internal kinesthetic, internal physical sensation, and there's an external physical sensation.
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I don't know how to answer the question. Do you
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What? Know how answer the
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There's no translation. It is the same.
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Transmitted from
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No, there's nothing transmitted. It's the same.
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Oh, it's a connection then. That's through some kind of connectionism.
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It's all connection. Now what how we're missing here, and it's an unusual way we're missing, is that you're saying by what mechanism does something take place that already is existent?
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And I'm having a hard time answering that because I just perceive it as already existent. It is there already. If it's there, it's there.
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Everything is one? It's always Yes.
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That's a bumper sticker way to say what I'm
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It's trying to certainly life.
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Yeah, that's it. It's already there. The question is, can you attend to it or can you not?
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As long as you don't hold hands and stings will be What? As long as you don't hold hands and stings, the circle of life would be alright.
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No. Because after about twenty seconds, that loses its zest for you, and then you have to try something else.
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And then after about twenty seconds, that loses success for you. At twenty seconds is not an accident because about every 12 to 15, it runs round and about every after five or six or seven more, you catch on that it's going around again.
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If you have to hold hands and sing,
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then you've already missed it all. And you've got a lot of sweaty hands and a lot of loud noise, probably not on key.
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And then you call that we really connected. And you've replaced something that is already there with something that you made up. And pretty soon the Hallmark card and she loves me.
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Yay. Look at the card she picked out. I bet she came up with these words herself or at least they perfectly reflected exactly what she thinks of me. Otherwise because think of all the cards she could have picked. This one says, to my favorite schmuck.
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Yeah. Next.
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My name is Beth.
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I'm excellent at women's coleslaw wrestling. And
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I I have an upbeat personality.
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Hi. My name is Linda. I'm a very patient person, and I never take anything personally.
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And we're glad for that, aren't we?
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That's a relief for me.
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I'm Judy Pennington.
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Watch your patterns. She's showing you them. I hate this.
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There's one.
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That's right. That's one. And I love to skydive. Well, I'd like to learn how to skydive.
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Okay. I don't wanna know about your likes. This is, again, putting a parameter in between.
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I'm a skilled spin doctor.
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Okay. Something that's not true. Do you think that's true?
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Student: No, it's very definitely true.
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I'm asking you for something that you don't think is true.
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I'm I am asking you to consciously lie
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rather
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than
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all the unconscious lies that you do. I'm asking you to do on purpose what you do accidentally all over the place all the time to find out how much fun you have with it. I'm great at math. A wizard. Isn't it?
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Hi. I'm Joan. I am a professional trap trapeze artist.
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Did you prerecord that? One of many. Yes. Give us something you haven't prerecorded.
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I'm a ballet dancer. Okay. And I work for the park and recreation department.
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Okay.
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I'm Janice, and I'm really well coordinated. And I love to clean things.
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Hi. My name is Vicky. I'm probably the most graceful person you'd ever meet. I love skydiving or I'm a great skydiver.
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Okay. My name
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is Dick. I'm a great lover,
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and I I love to parachute jump.
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Okay. My name is Paul, and this course is very easy. And
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And that and that did not hurt.
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Okay. Take about seven minutes and come on back, please. By
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end of the day tomorrow or Tuesday for sure, you guys will start moving together as a group with your bodies.
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You'll start really working together with your bodies. Your bodies will begin to reflect what's going on in the room rather than just what's already stuck in there. In other words, you'll start opening enough so the environment becomes relevant to you rather than just stuff you've made up.
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Any other questions while we're at it, before we dive onward
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about anything? Here's your chance.
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Jerry, you knew that I was thinking about my answer before I said it. I was wondering what might have or eye shifts or something that I revealed to show you that.
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I'm not aware of having done any of it with eye shifts. It's just so obvious that you didn't have your attention on it when you were reporting it the second time. It had already played through so many times that you were absolutely uninterested in it. It was stuffed and mounted.
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You had killed all the entertainment out of it in an attempt to not be at risk.
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You would evaluate it how many times that it was an okay thing to say.
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You had gotten rid of its cuteness and then you said it in an attempt to be cute.
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Any of you have a college professor or somebody leading a course that you know that they knew what they were gonna say next because they'd always said the same thing? They look like that.
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Any anything else?
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Why aren't you wearing shoes?
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I don't know.
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I could tell you lots of stories. Would you please tell me why I'm not wearing shoes?
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Are you either trying to train yourself to adapt to the chilly weather? Are you trying to depolarize yourself by walking on the grass? Or you just wanna be unusual? Or or you don't wanna wear shoes?
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I was born on a boat.
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Don't know how many What? Of you know
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Or you were born on a boat.
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I was.
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I was born on a boat, and you understand how we could keep going with that? I
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have no story for why I'm not wearing shoes unless I make one up, which I could readily do, and you could even give me some ingredients to put in it and I could work them in. And how long has it been since I wore shoes leading a course? Years maybe?
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It doesn't matter who I'm talking to, whether they have suits or ties or whatever, I don't wear shoes. Leading a course? Yes, ever. I never do leading a course. Do I at other times? Yes, I do. Never walking over Red Echols because it ruins the shoes.
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Plus, we get to see your pretty nail polish. That's Emily's work.
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Yeah. Like
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that. Like this one. I had a different one for Atlanta. She just did this one for this I mean, for Houston. This is a different she does one nail.
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So in in other words, in the answer to his question, it's
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There's no answer to any question unless you make one up.
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Okay. I'm gonna make up something.
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Yeah, please.
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Okay. It doesn't matter why you don't wear shoes. And he should have been concerned with why you
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don't wear shoes. Shut his big trap. Right?
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I mean, let's at least say what you're really saying.
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What's Without swearing.
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Okay.
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Do you swear in your own head?
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No. I I I swear out.
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Yeah. I have a suggestion for you Okay. For the next few days. Even though, I mean, some of the people you like to swear at aren't here. I know. But these guys could do that. These guys could get there.
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Try just for a little bit as an exercise strictly for you. Try swearing only in your own head and not out loud. Since I don't think you do ever swear in your own head, I think you just swear out loud.