IC
Illusion Conclusion
Jerry Stocking
Library
Search
About
Library
/
Illusion Conclusion — Core (16 Tapes)
/
Tape 5 – Side A
Tape 5 – Side A
IC_T05A
44:41
69 nuggets
← Tape 4 – Side B
Tape 5 – Side B →
Nugget
1
/ 69
00:00 — 01:01
00:00
44:41
⏪ Prev
▶ Play
Next ⏩
📍 Restart
-10s
+10s
Speed
0.75×
1×
1.1×
1.25×
1.5×
2×
←
prev ·
→
next ·
R
restart ·
J
/
L
±10s ·
Space
play/pause
All nuggets
Click to jump
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
8
9
10
11
12
13
14
15
16
17
18
19
20
21
22
23
24
25
26
27
28
29
30
31
32
33
34
35
36
37
38
39
40
41
42
43
44
45
46
47
48
49
50
51
52
53
54
55
56
57
58
59
60
61
62
63
64
65
66
67
68
69
Transcript
268 utterances · click to jump
00:02
S0
What if he could do all of them? What if she could do all of them? Think of the kids. The kids would get to end up with whatever they end up with rather than being forced into a situation.
00:19
S1
When I looked down I think I was seeing pictures then my next
00:23
S0
Well do it for us and watch them guys.
00:25
S1
My next thought was
00:26
S0
Put them now.
00:27
S1
Okay. And my next thought was how can you talk and not see pictures? How can you I just showed you. How how how can you audit run an auditory thing and not see something that you're reporting on?
00:39
S0
So he goes down and there are lots of pictures. I guess they're not to no auditory. I don't want you to try and change it
00:48
S2
Okay.
00:48
S0
At this point. I don't you go into the doctor's office, they take your blood pressure, they say, change it now. No. They say this is what your blood pressure is. Okay. We're taking your blood pressure and your pulse here. We're finding out what your current limitations are. When you do change this, this is a terrible thing to say to you, it will happen totally naturally, completely easily in the process of life itself, and it may or may not even be something you notice for the next year. It will take place easily and effortlessly. There is nothing that we do in here I want you to try and change. Please. You will just mess it up.
01:36
S0
You will. You will make a mess of it because this is happening much faster than you can try and change anything. Don't try and change it. I want you to make a current assessment of what you're doing now so that as it changes all over the place, you can go, ah, it changed.
02:00
S0
Because by Tuesday, for sure, you are gonna look around this room and you're gonna see very different patterns on lots of the people and at least half of you are gonna say, well, yeah, all lots of people's patterns changed but mine didn't. What is the likelihood? It's not gonna happen. Yours are gonna change and theirs are gonna change. I wanna take a snapshot. And if you start trying to mess around with it, number one, you're gonna fall in your nose and fail
02:32
S0
because you can't mess around with something this subtle.
02:36
S1
I I guess what I was think was wondering is is that what I'm doing? I wasn't even sure.
02:40
S0
Yes. Go down there and you see lots and lots of
02:42
S1
pictures. Okay. Okay.
02:43
S0
That's what you know.
02:44
S1
It's probably painfully obvious to others, but it was just
02:48
S0
It's not painfully obvious to me. It's obvious, just not painful. Shucks, if I'm going to get pain, I'm going to get some more interesting pain than what you do to yourself.
03:02
S0
Woah. That would hurt, Patrick. Okay? Keep going.
03:12
S0
The faster the access, meaning the faster you grab it, the less likely it is that it's conscious.
03:23
S0
Because the ones you don't do consciously are really fast. The ones the very process of bringing it into consciousness, show them what you do, please.
03:33
S3
It's really important to to have a high moral set of values and to to watch what we do with our ethical principles and to stay alert to the things that can throw us off track.
03:48
S3
Sometimes, if we're not careful, we can have all kinds of things come into our life.
03:53
S0
It's beautiful. So what he does is he grabs pictures really fast. He doesn't see these pictures, and he comes down and talks about them. Any of you ever have a professor like this?
04:07
S0
So he grabs the pictures, but they don't enter here. And then he comes into the auditory, and almost all of his seven plus or minus two is full of auditory. Just about all of it. This is like the picture in the dictionary next to auditory.
04:26
S0
Okay? Go. Do that. He teaches debate. That makes sense. It makes sense that he would teach debate.
04:39
S0
What did you notice? I
04:47
S0
love some of the humorous things that show up. Do you mind demonstrating for him quickly, or would you rather not? What? Okay. Watch his auditory. Go.
05:00
S0
Taking my boat out uncovering it. Just go out into, do some fishing. Any doubt he saw himself uncovering it? Any doubt he saw the boat? No. Now take off the glasses.
05:17
S1
Keep going.
05:20
S4
Paul takes off his glasses and doesn't see any more pictures in his head.
05:29
S0
I'm on the dock, and I'm fishing and just casting about
05:39
S0
and reeling in the line. There go the pictures. Yeah. Yeah. They disappear. Like nothing there. Yeah, like nothing there. He takes off his glasses and he can't see his internal pictures. Is this funny or what? Nice job.
06:01
S0
You gotta try it and find out what happens.
06:03
S5
But that happens if
06:05
S0
So part of it is that his internal pictures aren't internal. They're right out here.
06:13
S5
I can be asleep.
06:16
S0
Them Don't worry. Do auditory if you're gonna do this and talk about it.
06:24
S0
I love it when women look at me like that. It means I might be in trouble later. Oh.
06:33
S5
I can be asleep. The phone will ring. And if I don't put my glasses on, I can't hear.
06:43
S0
Is it funny the way we get wired or what? Okay. Look at the ceiling while putting your eyes down toward the floor, please.
06:54
S0
Like this.
06:59
S0
Oh. Don't put them up first and then down. Just while you're looking up, look down. Then while you're looking down, look putting your head down, look up.
07:12
S0
Doing back and forth. Alright. We have to What? Faster. Is this automated or what? This is not a connection in your body. It's a connection of habit.
07:27
S0
Anybody a little sick to their stomach?
07:29
S3
Yeah. What?
07:31
S0
That's that wired in, and it's not part of your body. It's just the way you've always done it.
07:42
S0
You normally go like put your eyes up when you put your head up, and you put your eyes down when you put your head down. We interrupt one little pattern like that and you get sick to your stomach. We're interrupting patterns all over the place this week. Thank you kindly. Watch. Watch. Try that.
08:04
S0
Oh, wow. That's perfect. It's all wired in, but not hardwired in. It's habitually wired in. Try being around somebody and say, oh my gosh. Look at that. First of all, they're gonna think you've been studying with Fred.
08:28
S0
Second of all, they're gonna go, wow. I never thought of that. One of the things I used to do is sneeze upward.
08:37
S0
Talk about something. I don't do it anymore. It's a little dangerous because it's an awful lot of pressure downward. But if you wanna get the attention of a group of people, sneeze upward.
08:50
S0
Place goes up for grabs. They have and it's not about the spreading of germs. It's about they never ever have seen such a thing in their life because everybody does this when they sneeze. Go like this and really be careful, though,
09:08
S0
cause it's a lot of propulsion downward.
09:14
S2
If looking down to the left is for internal auditory, why weren't we looking over to the sides laterally for this conversation? Why? Yeah. Why
09:24
S0
Don't ever ask me why again. I'm only doing a service to you by not making up absolutely irrelevant fascinating stories that would hook you forever, and you'd go around and tell other people like it was the gospel. And pretty soon, we'd have lots and lots of followers, and they'd all be painting one nail on their foot.
09:45
S2
I don't understand.
09:48
S2
Much.
09:50
S2
Much.
09:51
S0
Right. Alright. He doesn't understand much.
09:59
S2
We were looking down to the left.
10:01
S0
Because that's what I told you to do.
10:05
S0
Right? If you don't do that. That's what I told you to do. Right?
10:11
S2
That's correct.
10:12
S0
Yeah. So what's the problem?
10:15
S2
There's no problem.
10:17
S0
What's the question?
10:22
S0
You imagine how much fun his clients would have for a week or so if they came in and he looked at them and he said, I don't know much.
10:35
S0
I would be willing to bet you'd notice a difference in your adjustments.
10:38
S2
Could be.
10:40
S0
What do you think the likelihood is based on your deep experience of this experiment?
10:49
S2
If I said that, I think it would be fine. K. They they were enjoying me. I'd lighten up somehow.
10:56
S0
Do you ever wear hats when you're adjusting?
10:59
S2
No. I
11:00
S0
would try it. I would try a different hat each day. Because
11:07
S0
at the very least, it's gonna get their eyes up a little bit, wouldn't it?
11:12
S0
And if you forget the hat, you can just write something.
11:19
S0
And they'll put their eyes up. So they'll get a little example of some visual. How could you use this everywhere?
11:30
S0
Couldn't you use it everywhere? Absolutely everywhere? What's he anybody got a hat? You have no hats.
11:41
S0
He's gonna look different in a hat, especially like a baseball cap backwards. Now we're really gonna get the real adjusting done. Watch what happens. Now this is just an example, and I know that this is serious and it's important and all of this stuff, but what if it improves your work?
12:01
S0
Right before he really starts adjusting them, he puts his hat back. He's got particular techniques that he has a hard, like a batter's hat, that he puts on for it. This may sound ridiculous and I'm not advocating exactly this, but how many variations could you come up with?
12:25
S2
You could build to the side.
12:27
S0
That would be great. Sure.
12:28
S2
That's good.
12:29
S0
Well, what about
12:34
S0
what about one little beauty mark?
12:39
S0
And they'll go, did I see that before? Is that this isn't it didn't even stay.
12:47
S0
What about one little beauty mark up there? And then it moves to the other side. I would be willing to bet, and just play with me on this for a moment. I would be willing to bet that if you take the statistics on this and you try that on one side and then move it to the other side and then put it in the middle, you don't even have to have it be a sort of thing, just a little beauty mark, that you will up your referral business.
13:16
S2
Don't they make fake moles that women wear?
13:20
S0
I have a theory.
13:24
S0
Given how much I like women, I think those are all fake.
13:31
S0
I don't think women really ever have a real mole. I think they're all fake.
13:38
S0
Now I haven't really done the investigation to work on this, but I'm thinking of it. You try and peel them off.
13:45
S5
Oh, this one
13:47
S0
Well, if they're fake, it won't hurt.
13:50
S0
Yeah. They are. I know they're not. Have you ever tried to peel them all off?
13:56
S0
Yeah. You have them?
13:57
S5
All of them.
13:57
S0
You don't have them?
13:58
S5
Most most people have molds. Yeah. They're like,
14:01
S0
Nobody has a mole.
14:11
S0
If I say it seriously enough, you think I mean it. How could you guys possibly possibly think I mean that? I finally caught him on a point. I finally proved him wrong. He said that all women's moles were unreal. I got him. I nailed that sucker. Took me most of one day, but I finally got him.
14:38
S0
One of the two creators of NLP, Richard Bandler, his theory is that the world wasn't round until Columbus sailed.
14:51
S0
It was flat prior to then. And when Columbus sailed, it turned round.
14:59
S2
What do think?
15:00
S0
Hi, doc. You gotta shorten it. Make it just a little bit bigger. Just riding a little high for me.
15:09
S4
The doctor has found a hat and put it on.
15:14
S0
I've seen things in catalogs that are supposed to get rid of moles.
15:19
S0
Right? Those little traps and things with the springs and stick around. Oh my god. I thought you were supposed to stick those in? No, you're not?
15:31
S0
Wonder if I was gay. God, if I knew as much as you guys knew, I'd be like you.
15:38
S0
Wouldn't that it's pretty is he pretty cool looking or what? Are you single? No. Are you married?
15:46
S2
Yes, ma'am.
15:47
S0
K. If he were single, which one would you rather date? This one or the one without that? This one. This This one. You don't mean that. They do mean that. Even the guys.
16:07
S0
I think you've got a universal attractant here. It's not bad. No. No? No. No. You came across it at first. Hey. That's you. But never I. We gotta do an adjustment here, and then you give it some fancy name that nobody's ever heard of.
16:27
S2
Oh my god.
16:32
S0
You understand why his referral business would go up.
16:45
S0
But
16:51
S0
up. Now how many other things can you come up with other than a hat to make it this all of you in every aspect of your life? To have you show up at this place of work that you don't particularly care for the people or don't care for them enough to really be thrilled that you get the opportunity to go in there, what would you have to do to wake them up?
17:18
S0
What would you have by waking them up, I mean, that their seven plus or minus two doesn't get the same data that it always does. And the repercussions start with you, and they flow all over the place. And there you've torn up their illusions. And you don't ever have to touch them. You don't have to hit them. You don't have to lecture them. You don't have to do any of that stuff. All you have to do is shift your attention because his attention shifts, by the way.
17:52
S0
Doesn't it?
17:53
S5
Mhmm. Mhmm.
17:53
S0
And then yours shifts. And then the next person you interact with, theirs shifts too.
18:02
S0
And the next person they interact with, theirs shifts too.
18:08
S6
How does his attention shift when he puts the hat on?
18:11
S0
You mean how does it go about it or where does it shift to or what does it do? Well, you can tell. Look. So it
18:20
S6
lightens him up? Is that the
18:22
S0
It lightens him up tremendously, but that's not about the attention shift. What happens attention wise?
18:29
S0
It's increased.
18:32
S6
Yeah. He
18:33
S0
He has more attention available outward.
18:36
S6
So how does that work? Magically. Yeah. No.
18:41
S0
But we aren't rather than dissect this one case, the question is how many places can you play with this?
18:52
S0
How many places can you play with it? Stand up and do your stretch, please,
18:59
S0
like you did on the break. Backwards or backwards? I don't care.
19:04
S0
Now backwards. I do care.
19:09
S0
Oh, what happens to your attention? What? No. There's.
19:16
S0
Other than the fact that you think she's permanently broken. Okay. Thanks.
19:22
S6
It went to her belly.
19:24
S0
What's the littlest, tiniest thing that you could do to alter somebody's attention? Alter my panic. And not much would you have to.
19:39
S0
I mean, I've done this several times today, and it gets the message across instantaneously. And yet you never could write me up at work for doing that because it was I was just scratching my face.
19:53
S0
What if you used subtlety and interacted with other people at a level of subtlety rather than the gross levels that you do?
20:00
S0
What if you noticed whether they were saying yes or no subtly without them having to say anything out of their mouth?
20:10
S0
And then you noticed that when they said something out of their mouth, it didn't fit with the other readings in there.
20:17
S0
What if you didn't have as a major profession being stupid by missing all of the subtle stuff and going only for the stuff that's huge enough to gain a little bit of your conscious attention?
20:32
S0
Wouldn't that be weird? What would happen is your illusion would start to fall apart. And when your illusion starts to fall apart, all of a sudden you have room for other human beings.
20:44
S0
And you start looking at other human beings and you discover that this is quite a world that we have to play in, isn't it?
20:51
S0
So one of the things we wanna see here is how long does the hat last for him?
20:59
S0
Could he make it last forever? Being good enough at what we do, he could make it last forever. And then he could take the hat off
21:11
S0
and keep the same thing that he had with it on.
21:15
S0
To do other than that is to need your security blanket all the time.
21:22
S0
Oh, I haven't got my lucky horseshoe,
21:26
S0
so I can't do it today. That's the story.
21:32
S2
Do you need to feel comfortable with something else? Is that what you're
21:36
S0
saying? Yeah.
21:37
S2
Keep a new one.
21:38
S0
Yes. And I'm not just saying that. I'm saying discover what the precise process is that shifted when you put the hat on and learn so that you can do that anytime. I'll tell you a really smart use of this. Any of you ever do cocaine? All you gotta do is observe what happens in you when you do cocaine, and you don't have to do cocaine anymore. You can just do it. Same thing with coffee.
22:10
S0
Observe what it does. Do that and you'll get it without having to
22:20
S0
what if you could be any way independent of the stimuli that you currently are explaining with your seven plus or minus two are the cause of some baloney or other.
22:32
S0
Any economy to this? Yeah. Yeah. You wouldn't have to wreck the earth
22:38
S0
to try and feed your illusion. You wouldn't have to.
22:46
S0
You could have your oak card table instead of your oak dinette table
22:53
S0
and be far more satisfied with that than that other person is with their big fancy table that took 4,800 trees.
23:05
S0
But then you also could have the big fancy table that took 4,800 trees and enjoy that, which would be a trick too because the person who has it isn't enjoying it for long. You could even do something really bizarre. You could be around the same person for years and years and years and have it become more mysterious and fun all the time instead of being ready to kill them most of the time and then just ignoring them the rest of the time.
23:33
S0
This system of this thing staying stuck doesn't work in relationship. It doesn't work in jobs. It doesn't work anywhere. It just sets up one redundant illusion that you go, I'm comfortable with this. And the worst thing that can happen is something much better than you ever expected shows up, then you really get angry because it doesn't fit in the system. And you gotta beat it down and get the system back to how it ought to be. That's what we're playing with this week.
24:06
S0
Today, we're opening you up to the outside world a little bit more. Tomorrow, we're gonna give you all kinds of practice in moving between stimulus and response. We're gonna get on to feelings and emotions tomorrow morning, but then we're gonna get into you playing with not having to be a response. If you don't have to be a response, this doesn't have to be full. All of a sudden, you're gonna be a distance from your illusion and get to get a glimpse of it and go, oh my god. You mean that isn't real. And then this nasty sneaky thing is gonna slide up on you from behind, and you're gonna have some peace whether you like it or not tomorrow. That's just day two. Tuesday, we're gonna get into language a whole lot. By Friday, we're gonna be ready to play with maturity. And by Saturday, we're gonna explore some patterns that we never could have done this early in the course. Some patterns which really shift all kinds of things, basic filters between these. And by Saturday, you probably will never wanna leave and will be really ready to start some work. That's the typical response over the, like, four years that we've had this course. They go, now we're ready. Now we're open. Now we're I say, yeah. Go out into the world. Good luck.
25:38
S0
And we get you your tapes.
25:41
S0
So that's the progression as we go. The only way to mess this up is by not being here.
25:48
S0
That's it. You can't mess it up if you're here. You can make it harder by wondering if it's working, by wondering if you're getting it, by sitting next to Mark.
26:02
S0
You could make it a little harder that way.
26:07
S0
Or comparing it to other things, that could make it a little harder. You can make it a little easier by doing what you did today, which is just coming and playing.
26:17
S0
Bring your lunch tomorrow. Bring just what you want. Don't settle for less. Please, between now and tomorrow morning, get plenty of rest. An awful lot of stuff goes on in here that you may not know about. You need downtime to process. Process, please, tonight. If you got a temptation to go out somewhere loud and nasty and you don't have to, please don't do it. If you got a temptation to drink alcohol, please don't do it.
26:59
S0
Don't do any of that nasty stuff. Be tender, be soft, be nice on yourself, eat easy, comfortable foods, take a long bath if that's your way of taking care of yourself. Whatever takes care of you, make sure you're taken care of between now and tomorrow morning at nine. If you want one little thing to do with people, watch them. Watch what they do. Watch how they do it. Get tremendously curious about what's going on out here. Those of you who are staying with some other people from the course, watch them. Or if you're gonna go out to eat, go to some quiet place, but watch your waiter or waitress. Watch what they're doing.
27:46
S0
Just watch people tonight, but rest, please. Sleep a lot. If you lie in bed and you say, it's too early. You know? It's 09:30, and I can't go to sleep this early. Lie there anyway.
28:05
S0
It it won't hurt. I I know of no one who has gotten bedsores in one evening.
28:15
S0
Headsores. Yes. But bedsores, no. Lie there and observe the thoughts. I shouldn't be lying there. I'm talking to myself. Oh, I talk to myself about talking to myself. Okay. Oh, I made a picture of what? I don't know if I have this. What's that?
28:35
S0
Get it? What if you were your own best company? What if you were your own best friend without illusion that's the case? With illusion, all you are is your own worst hiding place.
28:51
S0
And that doesn't work very well. So please go out and play,
28:58
S0
tone down, and get plenty of rest. Tomorrow, 09:00 here, We'll see,
29:08
S0
hear, and maybe even
29:14
S0
then.
29:16
S0
Okay? Tomorrow.
29:25
S0
Find somebody who is more fully stimulus response than you are so that you can dominate by pretending that you're a stimulus, yes. That's my definition of a transitional object. Somebody's in who's in the way of you perceiving your own illusion. And I've I don't know that I've ever run into a pet owner who doesn't think that their pet is something other than what the pet is.
29:51
S0
So you interact with your illusion about your pet as though it's real, which saves you from interacting with your own illusion. That's why we call them transitional objects.
30:02
S3
What about people who have several pets?
30:03
S0
I can't hear you.
30:04
S3
What about people with
30:06
S0
I still can't hear you. Now I can hear you.
30:08
S3
What about people with several pets?
30:11
S0
Whatever it takes. How many hits a day does somebody need? I don't know.
30:20
S0
What I'm telling you is that your pets are stimulus response almost more than you are. So you hide behind their stimulus responses. That's all. I'm just attacking pets. What is the problem?
30:39
S0
What I'm telling you is that in general you have been a pet.
30:45
S0
The only pets I like are chia pets.
30:51
S0
Speaking of pets, it's time for a sing along. Okay? I want you to please, I know it's not cool, but really sing. The verse will come and you'll recognize the verse when it comes. You can sing through the rest of it if you want to, if if you can try and get the words as they go. Would I play a sing along that all of you would know or one that probably none of you have heard before? Never heard. When it comes to the verse, please let it rip. This is Sunday morning Oh, I believe in Georgia.
31:29
S0
Great.
31:32
S4
Here, Jerry plays a sing along song. You can sing any song you want to to keep up with the group.
31:40
S0
What'd you notice overnight or any questions?
31:47
S0
Watch her.
31:50
S0
You wanna start looking for little movements in what they normally do. Not in Judy yet. But
31:59
S5
I
32:01
S5
had difficulty driving home, and driving is never an issue for me. It just sort of automatically happens.
32:10
S5
And I was at a party last night. Oh. Well, I had to go.
32:15
S0
You must have been with a lot of sweet, wonderful, tender, soft people.
32:18
S5
They really were.
32:19
S0
She works at a newspaper, so put that in perspective.
32:25
S5
That's a diff I weren't I wasn't with those people. Any No.
32:29
S0
I'm I'm indicating that you don't know soft and tender. If you work at a newspaper, you wouldn't be at the newspaper.
32:37
S0
Do you understand what I'm saying?
32:39
S5
I don't think so.
32:42
S0
If you live in 30 degree weather all the time, 50 degree weather seems hot. Right. That's it. Okay.
32:51
S0
So you had a hard time driving home and then you went to a party.
32:54
S5
And watching other people's eyes. My question is
33:02
S5
there's a purpose in knowing that information and what to do with that information besides observe it?
33:12
S0
Somebody want to answer that from what we talked about yesterday?
33:19
S0
Question? Can she? Yeah. Sure. Should she need to? No. Where were you?
33:26
S3
I was listening, but I didn't get it all. And I was also listening to some thoughts that I had in my head.
33:31
S0
Hard, isn't it?
33:38
S5
So only question is
33:40
S0
Hold on.
33:45
S0
Do you wanna reward him not paying attention to your talking?
33:50
S5
Not necessarily.
33:52
S0
I don't think so. So let's not bother.
33:58
S0
So I can give you easily 50 different answers. I'll give you one probably.
34:06
S0
They each have a model of the world. The model of the world is based on what fills their seven plus or minus two, What combination of those three fills this is why they do this. What
34:24
S0
combination of those three fills their seven plus or minus two entirely defines their world.
34:32
S0
Okay? Given that it defines their world and it defines your world, how you interact with them determines not only how you get along with them but it also determines what you learn about yourself in the process of interacting with them. So it's an underlying thing. What you're saying is you're saying,
34:58
S0
if I go to a country and they all speak French, what would be the point in learning French? No. I'm it's the same thing. Each one of these people has their own model and their own specific set of limitations that they take on. That's the way they process information in this way.
35:25
S0
If you don't have any clue of what they're doing, something very interesting will take place. You will take on their limitations unblocked.
35:38
S0
You will take them on and wonder why things weren't like you'd like them to be.
35:49
S0
You will take it on.
35:53
S0
Of what benefit would it be to know that there are things in a room that are perhaps deathly to you?
36:02
S5
Well, for me, I'd stay away.
36:04
S0
There are other one yeah. But you wouldn't know. What I'm telling you is without this, you don't know who's good for you, who's not good for you. You don't know almost everybody gets in relationship by their patterns, so they enter into a relationship with someone who supports their patterns. I don't care whether it's by resisting them or accepting them. You run around and you try and find someone who will reinforce your patterns. You walk into the room, you don't say, oh my god. What patterns are there here that I could really use to make myself much more of a human being?
36:49
S0
You generally walk into a room, you you do it differently than most of the people. You go into the room and you say, it's my room. I'm gonna I'm here to play. It's my room. You know most of these people don't do that. Right? Do you know that?
37:04
S5
I'm discovering that.
37:06
S0
Yeah. They don't. Most of them go in and they say, where could I keep some of my stuff hidden? Who could I keep some of my stuff hidden with? Not no. No. Yeah. Okay. Hi. And then we sit there and run complimentary patterns and I learn nothing from the evening. And she learns nothing from the evening and then I go home to my dog and I say, I met this really nice person. Reminded me of you.
37:43
S0
I could have gone to your party with you last night, though I never would have, But I could have gone to your party. I could have pointed out to you how many people were there? Oh, about
37:54
S5
well, when I was there only, probably about 15 or 20 because I went early and left early.
37:57
S0
Okay. I could have pointed out two or three people whose patterns, if you learn them that night, all you gotta do to learn them is hang around the person. You would have been a little more uncomfortable than usual, and you would have come back this morning with major shifts in your patterns.
38:17
S0
I could have also pointed out who would be of no benefit to you at the party so you don't even need to give them one word or just say hello to them and that's that. I can also point out to you who at the party is a major problem for you because they will reinforce exactly the parts of you that you want no part of ever again.
38:37
S0
Get any benefit to this?
38:39
S5
I've got one.
38:41
S0
I also can walk into the party, and I can sell every single human being in the party as a unit or one at a time. And you'll watch me, and you won't even recognize me because I will take on precisely what they need and then lead them out to what they really need, and they'll go, oh my god. That's one of the best parties I've ever been to. And I can also, at the end of that, erase that I was even there, and they won't even know how come.
39:10
S0
And all of that takes no effort. Little benefit to this stuff? Yeah. Maybe.
39:17
S6
A whole lot.
39:18
S0
Yeah. But it depends on if you wanna close every sale. It depends on if you wanna live around somebody who furthers your growth rather than impeding your growth. It all depends on if you want your kids to be the bane of the rest of your existence or not.
39:37
S0
Because in most cases, the kids are set up to ruin the rest of the parent's life. You know this. Right? And and that's the case. What if it didn't have to be the case?
39:52
S0
I may at times appear a little overbearing here. Maybe not to you and maybe to some of you. My kids are the most autonomous human beings I've ever seen in my life. They don't care what I think, and they entirely listen to what I think. Mhmm. And then they do what they do.
40:15
S0
What if you could show up and free the slaves at the party? What if you could show up and all of a sudden, all the people stop running their normal patterns and the whole place becomes a free for all in which they nobody knows what the heck is going on. I'm not meaning they're doing handstands. I'm meaning they're talking to who they wouldn't be talking to and they're saying what they wouldn't be saying and and alcohol isn't involved.
40:42
S5
There wasn't any alcohol
40:44
S0
You get what I'm saying, though. A typical party is what I'm talking about.
40:47
S5
I understand.
40:49
S0
What if? That's my question. Yeah. Stay tuned.
40:57
S0
Any point to this? Well, I don't know. Probably not. And it's a legitimate question, and I typically get asked it. Why are we bothering to learn this? I don't know. What else? Anything that you noticed overnight or anything at all?
41:15
S0
How many of you knew that Janice wasn't going to be on time today? The one who's not here.
41:28
S0
How could you possibly not know that? I knew that.
41:33
S2
Was she the one that
41:34
S6
was late? How did you know it?
41:35
S0
Like, was she late yesterday, think? The speed with which she put her own world back together when she stepped out the front door. It was about 30 times faster than you put yours together.
41:50
S0
Faster you pattern? Yes. The faster you put your own world back together, the less respect you have for anything that goes on here or for me. There are only three things you need to know about any human being in the world, which is what does it take to sell them, how long do they stay sold, And what does it take to resell them? Those are the only three things you need to know about anybody.
42:18
S0
What does it take to sell them? In other words, is it worth it?
42:22
S0
Is it worth it to do what you need to do in order to have them move a little bit? Because you know that there are any number of people in your life, it's not worth it.
42:36
S0
Any number of people that it's playing out not worth it. You have a session with somebody. You do incredible stuff, and before they leave the office, they've already thrown it all back together. And then you go, oh my god. Fire them.
42:50
S0
Fire them.
42:53
S0
That's one of the things that has Fred hang around is that he touches my body. He does something. I go from there up, not from there back. Every time. For how many years? Five years now. I go from there up, and he goes, oh my god. I I I don't know what to do. That's the way you have to push everyone's model. So what does it take to sell them? In other words, is it worth it? How long do they stay sold? In
43:26
S0
other words, do you have to sell them again really fast?
43:33
S0
How much of your life are you gonna spend selling them? And then
43:39
S0
what does it take to resell them? In other words, are they faster on the next time?
43:46
S0
Some are the same sale. You're gonna get tired of that person. I promise you.
43:52
S0
If you have to sell just as hard the next time you didn't make any progress, you're going to get tired of it unless your whole game is not to connect with them and not to make any progress. And then you've got it.